Bible Polygyny


when we point a finger at another, 3 are pointing back at us, time to engage brain before opening mouth to condemn polygyny

 Who can find a woman of virtue? For her value is far above rubies.. Prov.31:10


As nearly always, this objection comes from those who have never considered such marriage from a Biblical perspective or who have never taken the time to actually ASK wives in such families whether they are suppressed or degraded. Yet they are quite convinced this is the case.

As we have proven on this site, God made laws for and commanded polygyny and as Creator (through Christ), I am certain He knows more of the heart and mind of people than any modern psychologist. Obviously God does not think polygyny is degrading to women.

Not all women and men are able to live the polygynous lifestyle, but the women who do are not ignorant or weak willed; so stupid that they put themselves in a degrading situation.

It would seem impossible to most that there are women who are attracted to strong spiritual leadership in men, attracted to men who know what love is as opposed to the heart fluttering superficial concepts. Remember the great love passage in 1Cor.13? Love is giving up of self as quality husbands know. What wife or wives would be demeaned if she was loved by a husband of Scripture;
Eph 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for it,
Eph 5:26 that He might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the Word,
Eph 5:27 that He might present it to Himself as the glorious church, without spot or wrinkle or any such things, but that it should be holy and without blemish.
Eph 5:28 So men ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.

We have a monogamy divorce rate pushing 60+% and such folk want to condemn polygyny as degrading? Let monogamists get their own marriages in order before God prior to presumptuous condemnation of others. Assuming degradation and malevolent motives in polygyny might make some feel comfortable about their own monogamous marriages, subjectivity as opposed to objectivity abounds in most criticisms against polygyny.

Marriage structure does not produce good or evil results. If bad things come from polygyny, then monogamy is far worse and should have been banned years ago. Many monogamous marriages have degraded women from the altar to the grave.

Just as men and women are free to make choices in monogamous relationships, so men and women are free to make decisions in polygynous ones. Yes there are cases where arranged marriages exist in both monogamy and polygyny but is this degrading? There are some arranged monogamous marriages which continue to work and the same can be said of some polygynous ones.

Any woman considering any marriage will certainly KNOW the potential husband long before any decision is made and if he is poor in his attitude to women then she will wisely leave off her considerations about him.

How many women in monogamous marriages have been degraded and abused? It would seem degradation in monogamy is acceptable but to be condemned in polygyny? Bash the polygamists, they're all bad and to be condemned and it makes me feel right and acceptable.

Women of quality will be admired and desired by men. Men of quality will be admired and desired by women. Polygyny increases the worth of women. When women of quality chose married men of quality and are welcomed into the home by her sister wives, then the availability of quality women diminishes.

When abusive men realize that women are making choices for polygyny because the husbands in those marriages are superior in love and caring, then it will challenge some men to lift their game. Now that will result in the betterment of women.

Here is a youtube presentation you might like to consider and surprise surprise, the speaker is a woman.

Polygyny degrades women?

Polygyny can be just as much a place of joy and benefit for wives as monogamy and may actually elevates the status of women rather than demean it.


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