Do not let each man look upon his own things, but each man also on the
things of others.
For let this
mind be in you which was also in Christ Jesus,
who, being in the form of God, thought it not robbery to be equal with
but made Himself of no reputation, and took upon Himself the form of a
And being found in fashion as a man, He humbled Himself and became
obedient unto death, even the death of the cross.
Many husbands joke that they can not handle the wife they have and who
would want more than one anyway. We know in most cases this is not a
serious confession, just a joke, a throw away line but for those odd
husbands who do find even one wife a burden we offer some advice.
Examine how you are loving her.
Paul encourages us husbands to love our wives as Christ loved the church
(which is His Body) as this passage shows:
Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the
church and gave Himself for it,
So how did Christ love the church which is His Body? Our Lord Christ
"gave himself" for it and this word "gave" is elsewhere translated
"delivered up", "betrayed" and "hazarded" (their lives) and is found in
this verse which shows the Father's love in sending the Son;
Truly He who did not spare His own Son, but delivered Him up for us all,
how shall He not with Him also freely give us all things?
And is also found in this verse showing the Son's love the "giving" of
Eph 5:2 And walk in love, as Christ also has loved us,
and has given Himself for us as an offering and a sacrifice to God for a
sweet smelling savor.
We have examples of the love of the Father who delivered up His Son and
the love of the Son who delivered up Himself and I doubt we husbands
could not see the type of love so clearly exemplified. To love as Christ
loved is to deliver up ourselves and this giving means 'to deliver over
or up to the power of someone (else)" and our Philippians passage is
Lord Christ esteemed our affairs of more importance than His own and
thus laid aside all His rights and prerogatives as God, He "emptied"
Himself, or made Himself of no reputation, and took on the form or
status of a servant.
is our opinion that very few husbands can love like this and if they
did, any wife or wives under such spiritual headship would be not be
"difficult" to handle and in fact would be going way beyond the call of
duty to response of such love. And if we think this is a fairy tale
ideal, then why would God so instruct us?
If you think one wife
is too much to handle, then perhaps it is time to look in the mirror and
re-examine your love as a husband, is it "even as" Christ loved the
church? Love flows from the top down, lets not automatically blame our
wives if the marriage is not going well.
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